Let’s talk love

Thoughts to ponder…

Did you know love is one of the strongest emotions? In my opinion it is only second to hope, but just a little stronger than hate.

Did you know that even though love is often depicted as glorious, it’s often not good for you?

The emotion of love is simply an emotion. A feeling. Similar to nauseas. It means nothing but is depicted as meaning so much more than that.

It truly means nothing.

We describe “that amazing butterfly feeling” as love.

Again, this is not the case. That’s just anxiety.

Love, in all its complexity is simple, really.

Most people I’ve counseled in the past were shocked when I said that love could be unhealthy. That is was just an emotion and not that big of a deal.

I think that’s important to know, because like any other emotion, it goes away.

In my opinion, the love for a child should be titled something else, because there’s something more innate to that. However, romantic love is not the same. It leaves, just like any other emotion out there does.

That’s why they say marriage is hard work.

Some days you feel the emotion of love. Others, as most of you know but don’t want to admit, have also felt the same feelings with your partner as hate, anger, jealousy, etc. Love is no different.

The reason I say this is not to discourage love, the Lord knows I’m a romantic. No, it’s to encourage people who are in an unhealthy relationship with love to realize that they can actually control this.

Our society has extremely unhealthy visions of love. Admit it, we were all a little infatuated with the Twilight Series. However, we didn’t want to think about the fact that it was actually disturbingly horrible if you go to the root of it.

As kids grow, they too learn to depend on this unhealthy situation, thinking it’s supposed to be like this because it’s ‘real love’.

We talk about mental health in regards to anger, pain, trauma, grief, etc. Perhaps it’s time to work on the emotion of love.

If that’s the case, we’re here to help.

Give us a call, walk-in, message us, whatever works for you. We can set something up. As I said, love isn’t always your friend, it’s only an emotion, and it can be controlled. We can help you with that. <3

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